Somehow i always have miscommunications with qi! And then i get v pek chek wen he misunderstands wat i say/ reacts in the way i dont want him to react.
Actually intercultural communication is quite interesting and useful cos you can apply it into your everyday life!!
So after 1 sem of Nm2201 intercultural communications, i've concluded that I am a -high context (not explicit with my feelings in words; implied meanings and context more impt that the actual words itself) and qi is more on the opposite side which is-low context.
So right, on a few occasions when i sent him short smses he thought that I don't feel lk talking to him!! Then I'll get super pek chek cos thats TOTALLY not what i mean.. and i thought that it was very obvious through the tone of my message that I was happy to talk to him. Like.. URGGHH why can't he GET IT??
And then we dao each other for a whole afternoon after that... cos he thinks i dun wanna talk to him... and i think he's just going cranky for no reason.
HAHAH i noe it sounds lk a damn petty issue to quarrel abt LOL. But seriously I was like.. how can you equate the number of words to my feelings?? -.-
Then again i should have been more understanding... but dunno why i was feeling too exasperated to reply him nicely.. so i replied- ' ??!!! ' HAHAHA.. which.. dint help matters at all. xp
And then many a time... cos he's very low context one.. he likes to settle issues in like the most direct way.. ie. call me. I know most guys like that one.. calling is faster n direct easier to settle stuff right! But.. i reallllyyyy DONT LIKE IT. I like to have my own space to collect my emotions and thoughts and carefully think through what i'm gonna say so indirect means of communication ie. sms/msn will be better to sort things out with me, cos over the phone my whole house can hear me and I cant' control my emotions once i start talking.
Like there was one time... I... *confess* forgot to submit my assignment.. and then they warned that late submissions=zero. Then i was super scared n depressed so I smsed him... I was on the verge of crying alr.. then he call me... then I *dont really express my emotions easily and don't like ppl to know tt i'm crying* so I picked up his call and -din't say a word.
Actually I wanted to say smth but my throat was so sore from holding back tears that I couldn't utter a sound!! HAHAH. Then that kok thought smth was wrong with my phone (haii...i tot you'd know me better than that..) and then he go and call deb! So she walked out of the room and EH JIE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU.. QI's LOOKING FOR YOU!
I WAS LIKE NOOOO~~~ now everyone's gonna know what happened to me and i din't want deb to see me emoing! So i burst out crying over the phone and announced to everyone that I forgot to submit my assignment and i'm getting a zero. And then my parents were like WHAT how come can forget to submit! And then my dad was like mumblinggrumbling all the way...complain i whole day play too much blablabla which made me feel like x1000000 shittier than i was already feeling. SIGH!
HAHAH I'm not blaming you qi!! It's OK.. I still love you. HAHAH. I'm not upset already... especially since in the end.. i got 12.3/15 for the assignment!! SO SHOCKED wen i saw that mark on my gradebook!! Cos after the incident I went to plead with the lecturer and he was like so heartless say until he can't do anyth to help me and 'Carelessness already deserves penalty'. I really hope that mark on gradebook is FOR REAL. >.<
And then todayy~ I had some miscommunications with qi over sms, and then.. he..he thought that I was smsing another guy but accidentally sent to him instead!! HUMPH!!!~@!!!~!!~ How can you not trust meee~~ T_T Then he called me n was like 'Was that sms for me?' Me- Stunned O.O " Yaaaa" Qi- 'Are you sure it was for me?' Me-"Huh. YA LA. Eh i sms you.(dont want ppl to hear)' *next moment* Qi calls back- Me-' (super impatient) WHAAAT?!!' Qi- O.O Me- I TOT I JUST TOLD U I WAS GONNA SMS YOU ........... .... .. .. . Sighh.. my dear qi is really kinda paranoid! I just spent the day with youu.. why sometimes you don't have enough trust that I am true to you too? Issit cos i never do enuf to make you feel that i really love you?? tsks~ Always doubt meee... sighh! K la must be the medicine getting into your peabrain.. HAHAH i don't blame you k!
*disclaimer* In NO WAY is this blog post meant to blame my boyfriend for the miscommunications. LOLOL Just analysing things from the 'new media' perspective. xp HAHA as if. Just some random thoughts i gained after studying for new media. LOL.
Both parties are responsible la for such situations. And.... i think i better learn to adapt to him.. instead of always getting so pissed off at being misunderstood and making things worse. LOL
See see! whole day suspecting me! What don't feel like talking to you la... talking to other guys oso dun wanna tok to you la... HAI! And how can u believe that that sms was for someone else.. it's so... OBVIOUSLY FOR YOU! Sighh i where will say this kinda things to other guys -.-
K la since u so insecure, i shall announce to the whole world-
Somehow i always have miscommunications with qi! And then i get v pek chek wen he misunderstands wat i say/ reacts in the way i dont want him to react.
Actually intercultural communication is quite interesting and useful cos you can apply it into your everyday life!!
So after 1 sem of Nm2201 intercultural communications, i've concluded that I am a -high context (not explicit with my feelings in words; implied meanings and context more impt that the actual words itself) and qi is more on the opposite side which is-low context.
So right, on a few occasions when i sent him short smses he thought that I don't feel lk talking to him!! Then I'll get super pek chek cos thats TOTALLY not what i mean.. and i thought that it was very obvious through the tone of my message that I was happy to talk to him. Like.. URGGHH why can't he GET IT??
And then we dao each other for a whole afternoon after that... cos he thinks i dun wanna talk to him... and i think he's just going cranky for no reason.
HAHAH i noe it sounds lk a damn petty issue to quarrel abt LOL. But seriously I was like.. how can you equate the number of words to my feelings?? -.-
Then again i should have been more understanding... but dunno why i was feeling too exasperated to reply him nicely.. so i replied- ' ??!!! ' HAHAHA.. which.. dint help matters at all. xp
And then many a time... cos he's very low context one.. he likes to settle issues in like the most direct way.. ie. call me. I know most guys like that one.. calling is faster n direct easier to settle stuff right! But.. i reallllyyyy DONT LIKE IT. I like to have my own space to collect my emotions and thoughts and carefully think through what i'm gonna say so indirect means of communication ie. sms/msn will be better to sort things out with me, cos over the phone my whole house can hear me and I cant' control my emotions once i start talking.
Like there was one time... I... *confess* forgot to submit my assignment.. and then they warned that late submissions=zero. Then i was super scared n depressed so I smsed him... I was on the verge of crying alr.. then he call me... then I *dont really express my emotions easily and don't like ppl to know tt i'm crying* so I picked up his call and -din't say a word.
Actually I wanted to say smth but my throat was so sore from holding back tears that I couldn't utter a sound!! HAHAH. Then that kok thought smth was wrong with my phone (haii...i tot you'd know me better than that..) and then he go and call deb! So she walked out of the room and EH JIE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU.. QI's LOOKING FOR YOU!
I WAS LIKE NOOOO~~~ now everyone's gonna know what happened to me and i din't want deb to see me emoing! So i burst out crying over the phone and announced to everyone that I forgot to submit my assignment and i'm getting a zero. And then my parents were like WHAT how come can forget to submit! And then my dad was like mumblinggrumbling all the way...complain i whole day play too much blablabla which made me feel like x1000000 shittier than i was already feeling. SIGH!
HAHAH I'm not blaming you qi!! It's OK.. I still love you. HAHAH. I'm not upset already... especially since in the end.. i got 12.3/15 for the assignment!! SO SHOCKED wen i saw that mark on my gradebook!! Cos after the incident I went to plead with the lecturer and he was like so heartless say until he can't do anyth to help me and 'Carelessness already deserves penalty'. I really hope that mark on gradebook is FOR REAL. >.<
And then todayy~ I had some miscommunications with qi over sms, and then.. he..he thought that I was smsing another guy but accidentally sent to him instead!! HUMPH!!!~@!!!~!!~ How can you not trust meee~~ T_T Then he called me n was like 'Was that sms for me?' Me- Stunned O.O " Yaaaa" Qi- 'Are you sure it was for me?' Me-"Huh. YA LA. Eh i sms you.(dont want ppl to hear)' *next moment* Qi calls back- Me-' (super impatient) WHAAAT?!!' Qi- O.O Me- I TOT I JUST TOLD U I WAS GONNA SMS YOU ........... .... .. .. . Sighh.. my dear qi is really kinda paranoid! I just spent the day with youu.. why sometimes you don't have enough trust that I am true to you too? Issit cos i never do enuf to make you feel that i really love you?? tsks~ Always doubt meee... sighh! K la must be the medicine getting into your peabrain.. HAHAH i don't blame you k!
*disclaimer* In NO WAY is this blog post meant to blame my boyfriend for the miscommunications. LOLOL Just analysing things from the 'new media' perspective. xp HAHA as if. Just some random thoughts i gained after studying for new media. LOL.
Both parties are responsible la for such situations. And.... i think i better learn to adapt to him.. instead of always getting so pissed off at being misunderstood and making things worse. LOL
See see! whole day suspecting me! What don't feel like talking to you la... talking to other guys oso dun wanna tok to you la... HAI! And how can u believe that that sms was for someone else.. it's so... OBVIOUSLY FOR YOU! Sighh i where will say this kinda things to other guys -.-
K la since u so insecure, i shall announce to the whole world-
See see! whole day suspecting me! What don't feel like talking to you la... talking to other guys oso dun wanna tok to you la... HAI! And how can u believe that that sms was for someone else.. it's so... OBVIOUSLY FOR YOU! Sighh i where will say this kinda things to other guys -.-
